A love relationship where the pain of loving that person overtakes the positive aspects of the love you share is what I call a “pain cycle.”
Some pain cycles are relationships where you feel like you are on Traits Of Toxic Parents an emotional roller coaster-where you feel betrayed or your emotional and physical needs in love are not being met and you suffer deeply as a result.
Pain cycles can even be relationships where the other person isn’t toxic, but the situation is: he’s married, or you’re in a casual friends-with-benefits situation out of fear of getting hurt. See, pain cycles are not just painful relationships-they can also be painless, somewhat unfulfilling relationships that you stay in to avoid seeking out quality, deep connections with men where you may REALLY experience pain. It’s that FEAR OF FUTURE pain that can make casual relationships into pain cycles.
However, the types of pain cycles where your partner is toxic can be very scary, deeply damaging, and downright exhausting. Here are five signs of a noxious man and some ways to spot these personality pitfalls right away:
1. He’s a CRYING CROCODILE:Noxious men display hypocritical shows of sorrow. They lack real empathy and compassion. They may bawl their eyes out if something hurtful is done to them, but when YOU are in emotional or physical distress, they don’t seem too concerned. They may act empathic and say the right things, but you can tell that they aren’t really showing understanding, or remorse if they’ve done you wrong.
If your man doesn’t seem to care much for the pain and suffering of others, including YOU, and you seriously wonder if you should entrust him with your safety, ask him questions like “If you found a wallet on the street, would you try to contact the owner?” or “Do you think most people would do harmful things to others if it benefited them and they knew they could get away with it? Would you, and what would you do?” Be subtle, but watch his expressions.
2. He’s a ROYAL WANNABE:A toxic man is entitled. He is the important factor in everything. It’s all about him and his needs. A lot of men act a wee bit self-important, especially successful men who love power, but a toxic man takes it to the extreme.
Does he truly listen to your needs or take your requests into consideration? Does he charm you and sweet-talk you, but never really HEAR you or SEE you?